Do you wanna know how I get it all done?
I DON'T. I Get Help.
You know how they say it takes a village to raise a child? Well I believe that it takes a village to help parents have a healthy, thriving, fulfilling life while raising a child.
When my first daughter, Laila, was born my husband and I had recently moved to Newark, DE for graduate school. We were new to the community and although we met so many wonderful new friends that we love dearly today, we felt pretty isolated right after Laila's birth. I was a new Mom and needed support. Our families lived in NY and Maine. We didn't know how to ask our new friends for the support we really wanted and needed.
When Laila was almost two, we made a radical choice (one that I didn't see coming before her birth!) that was based in our desire to have connection, support, and a life where our daughter was being raised by us and other people who love her deeply.
We moved back to my home state of Maine, close to my parents and brother, where we have incredible support, family, and community as a part of our daily experience.
(this is me, my bro, and my parents back in the day. We don't look like this anymore.)
I don't "get it all done" on my own. I know how to ask for help when I need it and I'm not afraid to ask for it (my Mom will attest to this).
I am suggesting that wherever you live, find your tribe and surround yourself with people who uplift, support, and keep you accountable to the values, priorities, and goals you've set for yourself and your family.
Your tribe can be extended family, dear friends, fabulous colleagues, close neighbors, whoever the people are that really get you and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
So I ask you.
Who are the people in your life right now, whether they live next door or across the country, who help you see the shiniest parts of yourself and stretch you to live healthier, bigger, and brighter?
Tune into the people who inspire you to do better.
Share your gratitude with the ones who support you, help you care for your children, and want more than anything for you to be happy and fulfilled.
YOUR JOB TODAY IS TO ASK THESE PEOPLE TO HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE TO THE HARMONIOUS HOLIDAY GOALS YOU HAVE SET FOR YOURSELF.
INVITE YOUR FRIENDS WHO WILL ENJOY & BENEFIT FROM THIS CHALLENGE TO JOIN YOU.
BECOME ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS.
Do you wanna learn more? Read your Day 3 Action Steps below!
Harmonious Holiday Action Steps
Support, S-T-R-E-T-C-H, Be Goofy
1. Call your best friend, Mom, talk to your husband or partner, let your sister know, tell anyone who matters to you that you are going about things a little differently this holiday. Let them know you are simplifying, slowing down, staying truly grounded in the big things that matter most to you and your family, and that you're taking radically good care of your body through it all. When you announce to your whole world that you're making a change, you're more likely to stick to it. And you may just inspire others to do the same for themselves in the process.
2. Ask ONE person in your life who you know will be totally on board with your intentions and goals for the holiday season to be your HARMONIOUS HOLIDAY ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER. You want to choose someone who you unequivocably know has your best intentions at heart and wants to soar with you as you set new goals and let your deepest priorities emerge for Self & Family.
Commit to checking in with each other once a week.
Have FUN helping each other stay on track.
In fact, S-T-R-E-T-C-H each other to go even deeper with your values and goals this season.
3. Dance. Hee-hee. I bet you didn't see this one coming. ;) When it's been one of those rougher days and all else fails, my man, my girls and I make up for it all with our infamous kitchen dance parties. If you want to dance to some holiday tunes, check out Kinfolk Magazine's Christmas Playlist here.
Move your body, be goofy, and always choose JOY over Grinchy-ness (you know exactly what I'm talking about) . Silly kitchen dancing does the trick for us every time.
To cultivating the support you need for a joyous season (and life),