Wanna know why I give my kids the royal treatment?
Flannery getting the royal treatment. ;)
I've had lots of clients share with me that their kids seem overwhelmed, unhappy, and confused about what they really want. I hear many adults lamenting about how "entitled" kids are these days, that we have a bunch of princes and princesses ruling our world...
Well, I love giving my girls the royal treatment and let me tell you why.
It makes them calm, connected, at ease, and joyful. Are you curious about my methods? I'd love to share one element of the royal treatment I give my girls (drumroll, please!):
A footbath! Here's how it goes down. I fill a basin with warm soapy water, set a towel on the floor, and soak their feet. They sit there feeling so pampered, cared for, loved.
We quietly talk about what's on their mind (this even happens with my two-year-old!).
I wash their feet, toes, and lower legs with a warm wash cloth. They laugh when it tickles and simply grin when it just feels soothing.
I dry their feet and massage them with lotion (I use Weleda's Skin Food or plain coconut oil for this). The girls LOVE this part. Gentle, safe, loving touch is a normal, expected part of their lives.
This is my version of the Royal Treatment. It doesn't involve spending money or getting my kids a bunch of stuff.
Here is what this royal treatment does for my girls:
1. It lets them know that their bodies are precious to their Mama and that they are to be nurtured and cared for.
They know that their precious bodies are valued.
2. They connect with me. They feel my love and undivided attention. They relish it.
3. During the winter months (or whenever they are cold), this is very warming, helps with blood flow, and, overall, brings greater body awareness.
It gets them comfortable with the power of healing touch.
4. If one (or both) of them is having a hard day, the foot bath is an easy, instantaneous way to slow down, be close, get grounded, and feel seen, heard, and known by me. I notice when things are off and I respond, which is a tremendous comfort to my girls.
The foot bath is like a release valve and,
Together, we find our center again.
Here is what this royal treatment does for me:
1. It slows ME down, makes me feel more centered, more connected to what matters in the middle of my busy days.
2. It reminds me of how precious my own body is and that when I give myself the same love and care that I give my girls, I feel beautiful, free, unburdened.
3. Okay, this is an extension of my last point, but hear this. I (and you) deserve the same love and care we give to our children. This simple foot bath connects me deeply to the fact that I need to be devoted to my own health just like I'm devoted to theirs. In fact, the only way they'll really know how to care for themselves when they're older is by seeing their Mama care for herself now.
When I take care of my one precious body, my girls learn to take care of theirs. I want to give them this gift of a lifetime.
Let me say the footbath is a GENDER NEUTRAL exercise. Our boys deserve the same loving care as our girls. They, too, need body awareness. They, too, need to understand the fundamental importance of self-care.
Self-Care Action Steps for You and your Little Ones:
1. Whether it is a footbath or some other simple way of connecting and teaching your children about self-care, what activity can you commit to this week for them?
2. What is the self-care practice you want to incorporate into your week for YOU? Is it a bath with essential oils, meditation, going on a walk outside, meeting a friend for tea, coffee, or a glass of wine ;), dancing with your partner, reading a beloved book? What is it?
Keep it simple. Make sure it's a small step and something you will actually do. Then do it.
To your radiant care of Self & Family,